EVERYDAY, ALL DAY, ANY DAY with BeeBee; Why settle?! Almost 2 out of 7 days in my week are so emotional for me.
Why? Cos I think a lot. Have you noticed a lot of people break up a lot in relationships lately? Yes because a lot are realizing what self love is and no one wants to settle for less. Why do we settle for less? Personally, I hate being alone. I hate the fact that I will gnash and turn into a counsellor to my dating friends (? yup, we all turn our relationship problems to our single friends). Most times we don’t intentionally settle for less. What if I try harder, my partner will start appreciating me. We all have that inner factor convincing us that maybe your partner loves you but he or she is acting up cos it’s a bad day for him or her.
Dear, it’s a lie. If a person loves you, you’ll know. If they don’t, you’ll be confused. Usually if you’re a nosy person and you know or heard how your current partner treated one of his or her ex, you’ll get an idea of how he or she is in a relationship. Let’s assume your partner and ex broke up cos of long distance or religious reasons, something not dramatic or bitter, and he or she is still so nice to their ex but when it comes to you, it’s all drama and crying cos he or she has less attention for you or unappreciative, don’t you think you might not be loved? Your intuition tells you your partner still has feelings for that ex.
He or she treats her right, i.e. from their chats or even how he or she talks about that ex to their friends. Your partner can ignore you for a day or two but checks up regularly on his or her ex? Dearie, what you doing?! ??DON’T SETTLE! Relationships are not meant to break you down, complain all day, fight for attention, makes you crazy, a pathetic stalker,…..NO! NO! NO! There’s nothing like my partner is not in the mood so he or she has the right to treat me bad for an hour or two or maybe I should give my partner space cos I feel like I’m bothering them.
Listen, when a person loves you, you make more than 50% of their day amazing. You’re almost their world, their everything. They want to tell you their day; how good or bad it was, tell you that person that annoyed them, tell you how they love or hate their work, tell you if the midsem exams rocked them, etc. So hey, don’t tell me maybe Juliet is moody that’s why she’s ignoring my messages but she’s online changing dps or Frank says he needs a break cos I talk too much, that’s not love talking.
Believe it or not, this is the best definition for love. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres’. ☺️☺️
So dearie, why are you settling for a miserable relationship? Always asking yourself if your partner loves you. Breaking yourself down emotionally, pretending you’re in a loving relationship on social media but crying yourself to sleep at night.
Remind yourself that there’s someone better out there for you. Someone who’ll love you like how John Legend loves his wife, Chrissy Teigen and how a trotromate loves coins. Someone who’ll love your imperfections, your loud mouth, your dry jokes, your messy hair or your daily gbaas. Love yourself, value yourself and add tax to it. In fact, increase that tax like how Mahama increases fuel prices and the one for you will pay it and let you keep the change seff ???.
REAL LOVE IS OUT THERE. IT WILL FIND YOU, JUST WAIT, I PROMISE ☺️☺️.
By Bernice Ghansah (@1real_bee)